Earlier this week I took a poll asking about whether or not you thought you had a good relationship with food. I wasn’t surprised at all for many to say yes and by the end of the ongoing videos, your vote has changed. While I wanted surprised I truly felt sad for you. I feel disgusted that we have allowed ourselves to hide our feelings, fears, and insecurities with food. We hide behind eating a treat and drinking alcohol instead of dealing with what is really going on with our lives. I am sad for you, and I want to help.
Your first step. Admit you have somethings you need to work out. Maybe your stressed because you feel the weight of running the house and kids, maybe you feel stressed because your working on top of that, maybe it’s because you have lost every good friend you had because you couldn’t juggle a high executive position and a social life without feeling like you’d need to sleep for a week. So you’ve picked food. I get it. I think we have all eaten our stresses away, for the time being, but how about this time, you don’t? What if this time you told your spouse you need a bit more help. You look into cutting back on some other expenses to have you toilets cleaned once a week for you. Look at hiring an assistant or delegating more responsibilities to someone who can do them too. Either way, find a solution that’s not at the bottom of a bottle or chip bag.
Do you binge and then feel guilty? This one happens a lot to individuals who eat a very very strict diet and are constantly being told what they can’t eat. It’s like telling a child they can’t have ice cream or a cookie, they want it more, they obsess until they get it. We are very similar. The second you can’t have something you want it! For me, this happened when I was pregnant. Before I became pregnant I never drank but then when I couldn’t MAN I used to smell Matt’s wine glasses and curse him. Silly hey! But now here I am again able to drink whenever and I could give two shits. Anyways, back to you, so you created this OMG moment about what it would be like to have a pizza and ice cream and three bottles of wine and Chinese food and then next thing you know you have eaten a week’s worth of calories and after that stomach ache goes away you now feel guilty. You feel embarrassed and ashamed when really you should have an “omg I’m not doing that again because it hurt my belly” no other reason. All of those foods are fine once in a while so if you love them to enjoy them once in a while, guilt-free.
Ladies… are you replacing sex with food? You laugh but it happens. You’re not in the mood to shave your legs and put in the effort, so you sneak to the pantry for chocolate or sugar trying to get that quick feel good insulin spike and bedtime crash. Instead well, skip the pantry and shave your legs!
Learn the language. Eating carbs won’t make you “fat”. Eating uncontrolled amounts of calories, consisting of highly processed, high sugar, wheat, pasta, and pastries can contribute however fruits and vegetables are carbs too and last I checked eating mass amounts of veggies hasn’t made anyone fat. Knowing that you can have a balanced diet of carbs consisting of veggies fruits, starch, and minimally processed sugar will give you enough energy and give you a great body composition.
Mindful eating. Everything you put into your body is a reflection of the life you want. Enjoying good whole foods 90% of the time and enjoying those other treat type foods 10% of the time will set you up for a long life of happy balance! Your mind is a very powerful weapon again your cravings, mood swings and everything else life throws at you. Create positive self-talk, learn the difference between eating for survival and eating for emotions. Balance your sleep, water and stress and I guarantee your relationship with food will become much better!